You see things & you say, why? But I dream things that never were & I say, why not? -George Bernard Shaw

To all ma guys out there...I gast You..

K so I know I know that I have been a bit sexist when it comes to the fashion part of my blog but let it be known it is not intentional.. I hope it is not too late to make amends... some juicy stuff ahead of us.. Ladies perhaps one day when you can actually afford to give your man some real gifts you will remember this.. so don't be jealous..

K this is just incase you were wondering how to wear a suit.. take some notes from Drake. He may not be universally appealing with those strange looks but who can say no when he looks oh so delicious..He knows that if you're gonna wear a suit you gasta do it right...HAWT

K so i have been watching some of the winter trends and allas disappointment has struck again.. I am sad to announce that i now posses an item in my winter faux-pas for guys.. What the hell..

Why Ben Affleck, Why Leonardo... WHHYYYYYYY would you do this?? Not even being a celebrity exempts you from looking utterly stupid in these so plese people.. if you are male do us all a favour and step AWAY from the UGGs..

But if you feel you must, i guess you have a right, there is only one man from whom you must take heed..

 And yes one point for Orlando bloom. thank you for making it bearable..

K so moving on to the more shiny and sparkly things in life I introduce to you the winter 2010 and early 2011 shoe trends for guys. I mean I love a guy in a good shoe.. In fact I think I can even call it a fetish. There is something attractive and sexy about a guy that has his shoes on point. I mean you can be as hot as I don't know who but as long as you got a shoe that looks like it has just been around the world and back..ummmm...hell no.. major turn off..But this doesn't mean wear a shoe so bright that I have to wear a pair of shades to look at them.. or so busy they make my head spin.. talk about tacky..I guess picking out the perfect shoes is a talent so do yourself a favour and learn it..

Winter 2010 TRENDS..

 YSL gochu

 Givenchy gochu

And if you wanna do it in leather then Christian Louboutin gochu too..

 If you wanna go a tad bit more sporty then the Jordan-Sky-High's gochu too..

I know there are some Vans Lovers out there feeling left out.. so i shall bring the party to you no worries

To My chuck loving laid back kinda guy

CONVERSE baybay courtesy of Louis Vuitton. A little bit of leather to spice things up never killed anybody..

K enough of this baby stuff onto some real stuff...SNEAAAKKEEERRRSSS woop woop!!

  LV in black

Creative Recreation Sneakers

Now these babies are everywhere.. Kanye, Usher, Jamie Fox.. You name him he is wearing them (hint: keep it back).. They are hot hot HOOTTT.. work hard boys work hard!!! Kanye may have MANY character flaws but he more than makes up for some with his style...

Some of my personal favourites from the latest collection include the following....

The 2011 Spring collection is clearly looking promising wouldn't you say

JORRRDDAAANNNSSS...!!

This is what 2010 looked like for the Air Jordans..*haaaaaaaaa* ..

Jordan's 2011 spring collection is looking pretty darn goooodd.. such oh so fresh colours..makes me think of a popsicle and happiness ..lalalalala

I remember once a friend of mine always liked singing 'hell no aint no way, what's wrong man..you just stepped on my jays..' for me.. now i totally get it cause if i was wearing these and you stepped on me....well lets jus say we would not get along...

Songs on my RADAR 2

K this week I have been all over the place with my music.. but i was really pleasantly surprised with the last two songs..by far my fave for the week..Clearly Flo-Rida isn't the only one that can do Bass.... ENJOY


Make Me feel special http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGDaiBKWGmQ


Make me wanna smile http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtCpC8jE_Cs


The Way Acoustics Should Be Done http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5OLF6d4-Qcs&playnext=1&list=PL1824F5B249D5814B&index=17



The White Country Girl in me kinda song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWTSZ9wN9B8


Good All Days make You Wanna get up And Jiiiivvveee Them Hips http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WAM6AjiZ9E


Make Me Wanna Get UP and Run or Scream.. AAAHHHHH http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IbhHUyeuoA


My MAJOR BASS Jam.. Daanngg!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTvdwizPugI


Just Because We All Need One.. Viisssaaaaa!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nx3Ezx5U9as

Decisions!! Decisions!!..Boys and Girls...

I love Boys, yes I love them all, the tall the not so tall, the slim the chubby, the skinny jeans wearing type the orange, the green and the yellow. Yes I like them ALL. I mean in my life thus far I have had a spectrum of guy friends and dated a rainbow. Like I said I like them allllll... I mean apart from being a firm admirer of God’s handiwork in making such beautiful creations, there is also the fact that guys are just so uncomplicated. What they say is what they mean. This is very much unlike the female species... If a girl tells you they are not ready for a relationship they are most likely saying they want you to BEG. In general everything boils down to the need to be begged. I mean a guy will tell his best friend, ‘dude listen, remember that girl you dated a while back? well yeah I tapped that man’ if he is in a good mood he might even throw in a ‘I’m sorry’. Next thing you hear is laughter and perhaps a complete breakdown of what constituted tapping, the next thing you know its a full on competition on who tapped whose the most. If that was a conversation between girls... Well...It would be something like this ‘OH NO YOU DINT’ next thing you know there are earrings being taken off, weaves being pulled out and heals being used as weapons, not a pretty site I tell you. It will forever be a war. With the female specimen, a grudge like this is generally taken to the grave, but with guys it’s just a platform for healthy competition. Like I said, with guys things are a whole lot simpler. No petty jealousy, no double standard remarks, no betrayals that last a lifetime...NADA...just good old unserious fun.

Okay so back to the point of this.. I have a problem in making decisions. There I said it..I am that person at a restaurant that is ALWAYS the last one to order (I’m sorry friends and family I love you too). I could literally sit there for hours trying to decide what I wanted to eat.. ‘consulting my taste buds’ I call it.. I mean I hate the feeling of missing out. I do not want to find out that I ordered the wrong thing, or even worse that someone else has ordered what I would have preferred to have. So linking the two together, my love for the Hims of this world and my inability to decide, yes you can see where this is going, I don’t know how to decide to jump into relationships. When it comes to the crunch time, The moment whether or not to launch and pledge myself into a he and she item I am absolutely USELESS. Coming face to face with whatever version of ‘I like you and I want us to date’ I am confronted with I cringe in my own skin. I want the ground to open and swallow me, my pallet goes dry my knees go weak for all the wrong reasons and I PANIC. I know that this is an ‘it’ moment. A moment that calls for quick decision.. AAAaaaahhhhh..

Without the help of an educated being, who will seriously overprice me, to find out the problem, I have to find out what the hell is wrong with me all on my lonesome. So I ask myself is it fear. Is that the reason I freak out? Fear of commitment, fear of the looming doom and gloom if it ends badly, fear that this may be the wrong choice.Fear of breaking someone else's heart when cause you just don't want the same things they do anymore. We all like to think we are fearless, like we are up for anything. That we can’t wait for the opportunity to give our hearts to that other person and trust them with it, to feel loved and all the warm fuzzy feelings that come with it. But the truth is most of the time we’re not fearless. We’re not the reincarnation of Braveheart. We’re fragile, we’re vulnerable and we just don’t want our hearts broken. Of course we would NEVER admit it, but the fact of the matter is that relationships are NOT full proof, some end and some end BADLY. Those of us that have suffered a broken heart know that getting up once is hard enough, so twice might just be a funeral.

Well am not really a roll over cause am afraid kinda person, I love karaoke and I have a bad voice.. Bring on the fear. So perhaps its other things that don’t really have a name. Like having super high, unrealistic expectations or secretly knowing you actually want someone else but can’t bother to wait. Perhaps its watching way too much Grey’s anatomy or listening to way too much Chris Brown and thinking those imaginary people exist somewhere out there for us. Perhaps its taking the baggage from a particularly bad situation or relationship in your life and unpacking it right in the middle or just before the start of a new relationship. I don’t know, there are just too many possibilities right....Too many ways to be messed up.


Or maybe I don’t have a problem, maybe high expectations are better than no expectations. Maybe its okay to wait when you know what you’re waiting for will be worth it in the end. Maybe the people with the problem are those people that go around liking and asking out everyone they 'connect' with because in reality they are afraid to be alone. Maybe its okay to be afraid because with fear comes caution and with caution comes a decision you’re actually proud of. Maybe, just maybe one day the decision won’t be hard to make. My knees will go weak for all the right reasons. I won’t have to decide. I won't have to think about it, or calculate or find excuses, or feel guilty or be afraid. I’ll know. I’ll know to say yes with a smile. I’ll know this is it for me and I won’t mind that I didn’t have to go through 60 people to find out. It won’t be difficult cause it really doesn't have to be. It will be effortless.. . A record breaker in my book of decisions.



Sometimes I know, then I don't know
Sometimes I want, then don't want
Sometimes I need, then I don't need
Sometimes I feel then don't feel
crave, and then suddenly don't crave
Sometimes I see, and then I don't see

Sometimes I love and then.....then....

Then????

Wait! what kind of sick line would "then I don't love" be

No!....What I mean to say is...
Sometimes I love then forget to love,
don't want to love,
don't feel like loving,
don't crave love,
don't need love,
don't even see love,
But never don't love......
No!

Because no matter what, I still love.
Yes, I love when it hurts, when it stings and when it burns,
I love when its stupid to love and even when i'm not loved back
I love when I shouldn't and when I thought I couldn't
Quite simply I love, and I love....and I love some more....
Because I can...

What better emotion is there than that which we cannot define
but yet only feel??
Even For God so loved...
Yes, because even for God so loved that he GAVE his only son.

So I will continue to love ....... and thank God for the privilege of loving,
For not many can.
So to you all I say ..
don't be afraid or ashamed to love
No.

So...

.. to you..


...ALL....


...I say...




I Love You :)

The Little Black Dress

I am sorry but this blog would not be complete without MY take on the famous/infamous LBD.. I mean do you really know the actual interesting parts of history, the evolution of that one outfit ladies that got your back when pink, blue, orange, green or whatever reining seasonal colour just isn't working for you and your complexion..the little black dress... well have no fear mes amis.. in the famous words of Mr Swagalicious himself 'I GOT, I GOT, I GOT YOUR BACK'..wait that was Keri's part wasn't it.. Anyway whatever you get the gist..Moving on...

Do you know what that simple phrase represents ..the little black dress.. ladies i know you are well acquainted so let me elaborate for the other sex.. well, to put it mildly it has come to be known by us females as that dress that makes you look like sex on legs... yes no matter the occasion. whether you are meeting and greeting Obama or getting ready to get it down and dirty on that dance floor with the guy you like but just cant seem to get,  a touch of sex on legs never killed anyone. So there you have it, every girl must own at least ONE.. myself.. well am a little extravagant and I don't like to be in possession of a list of guys I cant have so  i have a little more than a few..hehe..

Today's idea of the LBD .....you may have something hanging in your closet in the 'special' section that may resemble any one of these..

Or if you're like me.... not so much these.. Either way no matter your sense of style or fashion there has to be at least ONE hanging somewhere in there.

Moving on from the wishlist... let me just say that we have come a long way. Lets just say that in the past when it came to black dresses, there wasn't so much leg, back and arm involved in the design... it was a bit more....ummmmm... 'conservative'. A lot less skin and a lot more likely to put a smile on your mother's face when you are walking out of the house at an ungodly hour..

 yes the only savvy black number you would have been allowed to rock in the early 19 hundreds is this little number right here.. and the only place fashionable enough to take black was at a funeral....its not fun and games anymore now is it...someone had to wear that. *sigh*

So who do we have to thank for the positive turn fashion took??.. non other than MY fashion hero and OUR one and only Coco Chanel. Bless her. She was brave enough to take us ladies from the torture that is this attire and relieve you gents from the agony that is suspense and imagination and introduce to us the first version of the little black dress...*haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa*..

 'Chanel's Ford' as it was then referred to appeared in a magazine once upon a time in 1926. comfort and versatility she had in mind.. and while she was at it she threw in some leg for the fellas i guess.. 

This woman's bravery, vision and nonconformity got us where we are in fashion today. We could all use a note or two from her book of life. If we could all just step out of the whole idea that there is a right or wrong way to do something and we're the ones that know best, I think we would be less angry people and there would be laughs all round..

Of corse by the 1930s other designers like Christian Dior had caught on to this fashion revolution. He came up with a stunning collection and named it 'New Look' (am guessing the British amongst us have a lightbulb flashing in our little slow-processing brains). Glamorous, edgy, Parisienne all in one..I mean are we surprised? They say no one does black like Christian Dior and now I'm convinced..I think I could even still wear these today...(don't judge okay!)

Hubert de Givenchy presented his take on the LBD in his 1952 collection, only 25 years old at the time if I may add (talent doesn't know maths..age?.. irrelevant)

 Then arrived Audrey Hepburn’s in the Hollywood spotlight. Hepburn wore several of Givenchy’s Little Black Dresses in Sabrina in 1954, but it wasn’t until she wore his Little Black Dress in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, in 1961, that it became every woman’s dress and a wardrobe must-have.

Yes the Donna Karans, Armanis and Marc Jacobs of the world caught up EVENTUALLY but it is good to acknowledge the true founding mothers of our oh-so-treasured attire....We love you Coco..

So the moral of the story???...


NOT really go and make yourself a billion dollar industry.. I'll be content if you just push some boundaries a little, get out of your comfort zone and do what you really love...its not gonna be easy or else it won't be worth it but who knows..In the end you might just be pleasantly reworded and end up becoming a multimillion dollar industry yourself and being the topic in someone else's little history lesson..

You didn't think I would leave you without a treat did you.... =] but be warned click only at the risk of your debit card and yours or someone else's well earned money ladies...

Click http://www.asos.com/Women/Dresses/Cat/pgecategory.aspx?cid=8799#state=Rf-200%3D4&parentID=-1&pge=0&pgeSize=200&sort=-1

Reining Jam..2

I love love love this version... everyone should endeavour to live by the drums in this song at the least...
Katy perry move over this version burrrrnnnsssss yours...

CLICK and be AWED http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5OLF6d4-Qcs&playnext=1&list=PL1824F5B249D5814B&index=17